• Podcast
  • Work With Me
    • Individualized Wellness Coaching
    • Small Group Wellness Coaching
    • 1-on-1 Personal Training
    • Corporate Wellness Coaching
    • Media Kit
  • About
    • Contact
    • Testimonials
    • Newsletter
  • Stress Less
  • Eat Smart
  • Move More
  • Recipes
    • Main Courses
    • Side Dishes
    • Snacks & Sweet Treats
    • Beverages & Protein Shakes
  • Search
  • Home
  • Wellness Coaching
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms of Service
  • Menu
  • Skip to right header navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to secondary navigation
  • Skip to primary sidebar

Before Header

FitFeedByReed Logo

Simple steps to a healthy life.

  • Podcast
  • Work With Me
    • Individualized Wellness Coaching
    • Small Group Wellness Coaching
    • 1-on-1 Personal Training
    • Corporate Wellness Coaching
    • Media Kit
  • About
    • Contact
    • Testimonials
    • Newsletter
  • Stress Less
  • Eat Smart
  • Move More
  • Recipes
    • Main Courses
    • Side Dishes
    • Snacks & Sweet Treats
    • Beverages & Protein Shakes
  • Search

3 Steps to Stop “Trying” to Make Change

There are a few key things that show up in a recurring pattern for those who make successful changes – check out these 3 steps to stop “trying” to make change.

November 12, 2019 By //  by Reed

“I want to make change, but I don’t know how.”

“I’m trying, but it’s just not working.”

These are comments that I hear on a regular basis; I consistently encounter clients who reveal to me in our early conversations that they feel a fire in their belly to make change, but don’t know how to actually “get there.” (On a side tangent, we never actually “get there,” because health is a continual journey until we step foot in the grave, but I could go on about this for hours and that’s not the topic of this article ;))

There are two amazing things about about this encounter…

– The client has processed through the fact that they are actually ready to make change – that is a massive step.

– They are talking to me, a wellness coach, so they are clearly taking action steps to achieve what they want.

I sense in clients that this concept of being successful with habit change feels elusive. People want the step-by-step guide on how to successfully create change in one’s life. Unfortunately, there is no guide and the journey varies from person to person, but there are a few key things that show up in a recurring pattern for those who make successful changes. 

Understand your “why”

There are numerous books, podcasts and articles written on this topic. Simon Sinek created a major movement around this concept in his famous TED talk and his book, Start with Why, which focuses on finding your “why” in the workplace, but reveals principles that are also relevant to creating changes for your health.

There is also a principle out there called “the 5 whys” which encourages one to ask they question “why?” five times, to get to the core of the issue. That is the goal of understanding your “why”; to get to the core of your motivation. You’ll know you have gotten to the core when you find the emotionally-charged reason for what you want to achieve.

Find your “why” by getting to the emotional core.

Find accountability

Just as I mentioned above, one beautiful thing about receiving this question myself, is that the client is sharing their woes with a wellness coach. Share your struggles with someone – it could be your friend, it could be a family member or even a coworker who may be going through something similar – anyone you see on a regular basis that can respond back to your thoughts (so sadly your dog doesn’t count).

After sharing your thoughts and feelings with someone, find a professional who can assist you in making change – that could be a wellness coach, a nutrition coach, a personal trainer, a therapist, etc. Fair warning: Don’t get caught up in continuing to research solutions to the point that you make no progress. After you’ve done a bit of research into what will serve you best, make a decision and move forward. That is the only way that you will actually begin to work on the issue. 

Create an accountability system of family, friends & a trained professional.

Take baby steps

Break down your goal to the point that it seems like climbing an anthill to be successful at each successive step. Make it easy for yourself. I want each weekly goal to feel so doable that you are almost tempted to say “but I can do more than that!” That’s when you know you will actually be able to achieve it.

Taking baby steps builds continual confidence that yes, in fact, you CAN create change in your life. Each baby step leads to the next and over time you will make significant and sustainable progress.

Take small steps toward success.

By employing these three tactics, you are beginning to crack the code on creating change in your life. The journey looks different for everyone, but when you feel like you are falling off the bandwagon, check back on these three things to make sure they are in place.

Happy change-making, my friends!

(And if you need professional accountability, you know where to find me :))

Filed Under: Blog, Eat Smart, Move More, Stress Less Tagged With: accountability, get fit, lean out, lose weight, make change, start with why, stress less, sustainable change

Previous Post: «High Protein Chocolate Breakfast Muffins High-Protein Chocolate Breakfast Muffins
Next Post: Sweet Potato Fries with Garlic Yogurt Dip Sweet Potato Fries with Garlic Yogurt Dip»

Reader Interactions

Comments

  1. Hair Styles

    December 6, 2019 at 4:29 am

    whoah this blog is excellent i love reading your posts. Keep up the good work! You know, lots of people are looking around for this information, you can aid them greatly.

    • Reed

      December 9, 2019 at 11:51 am

      Thank you! I am glad to hear my words had a positive impact on you 🙂 Hope you are having a wonderful day!

Primary Sidebar

Coach Reed Fitness Training

About Reed

I am a wellness fanatic, certified personal trainer (NASM, CAFS, TRX, Pre + Postnatal), nutrition coach (Pn1, Pn2), label reader, do-er of active things, nature seeker and passionate dreamer. With 9 years of experience in the wellness space, I am here to deliver coaching advice that will help simplify the confusing world of wellness. Let’s cut through the chaos of fad diets and workouts to help you create sustainable change with healthy behaviors.

My content and coaching is guided by the following principles:

  1. Stress less
  2. Eat smart
  3. Move more

Follow along for advice to calm your mind, recipes that are quick to prepare and tips to improve your daily movement.

Favorite Recipes

High Protein Taco Chili Bean Salad

High Protein Taco Chili Bean Salad (Vegan)

High Protein Taco Chili Bean Salad (Vegan)

Grain-Free Cranberry Herb Stuffed Acorn Squash

Grain-Free Cranberry Herb Stuffed Acorn Squash

Energizing Tropical Smoothie

Energizing Tropical Smoothie

Garlic Rosemary Hummus

Garlic Rosemary Hummus

Brownie Batter Balls (Gluten Free, Dairy Free, Refined Sugar Free)

Brownie Batter Balls (Gluten Free, Dairy Free, Refined Sugar Free)
Paleo Banana Bread

The Easiest Paleo Banana Bread You’ll Ever Make

The Easiest Paleo Banana Bread You’ll Ever Make

Amp Up Your Inbox

Subscribe to The Fit Feed by Reed mailing list for FREE recipes, tips, workouts and more!

Subscribe

Wellness Coaching

Are you ready to start your wellness journey? Work with Coach Reed to improve your habits, fitness, and health!

Learn About Wellness Coaching

Follow Me

  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • Pinterest
  • YouTube
FitFeedByReed Rodelle Brand Ambassador
  • Home
  • Wellness Coaching
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms of Service

Copyright © 2022 The Fit Feed by Reed LLC. All Rights Reserved.

TAKE HOLD OF YOUR HABITS

Habits Calendar

Join The Fit Feed Fam

Subscribe to get your EXCLUSIVE Weekly Wellness Habit Calendar!

Sign Up Now

Insert/edit link

Enter the destination URL

Or link to existing content

    No search term specified. Showing recent items. Search or use up and down arrow keys to select an item.